带着孩子去动物园，有感而发，突然想起来了纪伯伦的这首诗歌。

孩子越来越大了，和父亲的关系也是越来越微妙。慢慢的从单方面的义务变成了对孩子的陪伴和依赖。

孩子在我身边的角色也从一个小尾巴，慢慢别成了我自己的影子，当然我不希望他完全作为我的复制人去生活。

孩子毕竟是一个单独的个体，我作为一个80后父亲，还是希望他能够活出自己的个性，走自己想走的道路。

人活一世，如果一切都是按照父母的条条框框去生活，那人生的意义是什么呢？我的前半生基本都是按照父母的条条框框去做，活的很挣扎，我不希望我的孩子也活成这个样子。

我希望孩子能够真的如这首诗所言，像那离弦的箭一般，能够比我飞得更远！

On Children Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but notfrom you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thought For they have theirown thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their soul For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, But seek not to make them like you, For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children As living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, And He bends you with His might, That His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies， So He loves also the bow that is stable.